Counselling and Psychotherapy
Counselling and Psychotherapy are examples of talking therapies and are often used interchangeably. Both provide people with a way of dealing with change psychologically through a confidential, non-judgemental, nurturing relationship with a professional in a safe environment enabling you to become more fully yourself.
Counselling is usually brief therapy that focuses on current specific issues enabling change in behaviour patterns. Psychotherapy offers longer term treatment providing the opportunity to explore feelings, thought processes, ways of seeing and being in the world. By drawing on insight from past emotional experiences it helps increase emotional awareness and regulation, to resolve deep rooted problems.
Solution-based Brief Therapy
While treatment needs to be allowed to take as long as it takes and not be limited to a finite number of sessions there are occasions where Solution-Focused Brief Therapy is appropriate.
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy makes use of bi-lateral stimulation of the brain. It is used to heal people from Post-traumatic Stress Disorder resulting from traumatic events such as rape, sexual abuse, road traffic accidents and combat. It can also help people who are experiencing distress following upsetting events, such as divorce, life transitions, grief and anxiety often in a much-reduced time frame compared with conventional talking therapies.
I inspire couples to grow into conscious relationship by developing each partners’ awareness of the unconscious forces that draw us together, and the defences we erect as we seek to restore connection between the lost, denied and disowned parts of ourselves through another. Paradoxically these “protections” become barriers to the very intimacy with another that, as human beings, we crave. I encourage a less idealised and more realistic view of the other through recognition that we all have both weaknesses and strengths. None of us is perfect. Partners begin to see each other as they are without all the encumbrances of unconscious projections. By helping partners hear each other and risk becoming vulnerable and expressing their needs before one another I encourage them to develop compassion and empathy for each other so that hurtful behaviour is replaced by nurture.
As well as providing the normative, formative and restorative aspects of clinical supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists I offer supervision to others involved in professional caring who carry the emotional load of others, for example pastors, ministers, pastoral carers, nurses, doctors, care workers, teachers, politicians and employers. To put it another way I provide care for the carer. Why wait for crisis to occur when pro-active self- care can prevent it?